If I told you I had all the secrets to life would you believe me? Would you listen? We have coaches, gurus, consultants, counselors, doctors; the list goes on and on with specialists giving us advice on how to live more fully. They tell us what’s wrong with our lives and what we need to do to correct it. But somehow, it never seems to solve our problems. Why is that? Is there something wrong with us that we don't 'get' what every happy person 'gets'? No, I don't believe that is it. I believe it is all about how we integrate our own answers into our lives.
I have tapped into my answers in life albeit they are not secrets. Most likely they are statements you have heard many times and believed them but didn't integrate them into your daily life. Today I will share one of my top ten answers and how I integrated the information into my life. My life has changed because of it. Maybe it might help you integrate your answers.....
Answer #10: Change your internal dialogue, change your life.
The chatter that goes on inside of me rules my life. Often I heard myself say these types of words... "you are not smart enough", "you aren't articulate enough", "you have to do more" or "you haven't done enough". I made choices based on these words. I didn't speak up, I spent thousands of dollars in education, I worked many hours a day.... etc. etc. All in response to the words I said to myself and believed. (well why wouldn't I believe it, it was coming from "me" or so I thought). Although externally, I graduated at the top few percent in my MBA program and I was promoted consistently throughout my career, I kept telling myself those same old words. The stress and strain of striving for perfection showed up in my energy, my appearance and my demeanor. I had to do something different because no matter what I did to appease my critical talk, I kept getting the same message.
After reading and listening to loads of material on what I could do differently, I committed to start saying the opposite of what I heard myself saying...I started to change my language....a little bit at a time. Here's what I did to start:
I replaced these words/phrases: With these:
Should Choose, desire, want
Need to It's important to me to..
Have to Want to, desire to
Can't Choose not to
Always, never Sometimes, often, seldom
Must Can
But And
Maybe Maybe introduces uncertainty,I don't use it
It was so empowering to say the words... "I choose to get more education" rather than "I am not smart enough". "I desire to spend more time on this project....rather than "I have to do more". I suddenly saw that I was at choice with EVERYTHING I did. When I said the words "I choose" or "I desire" it made me accountable for the actions I was proclaiming. Over time, I found myself saying "I am smart, I am articulate and I have enough. That was the day I decided to start down a new path in life.
Language is powerful. It originates from thoughts and feelings. Empowering language can train your brain to access the positive, producing more responsive, healthy thoughts and feelings.
You alone can choose differently. You alone create your destiny, your path in life. You are that powerful. Can integrating your answers help you make the changes you want to see in your life?
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